Introduction
This story shares how I learned to confidently ride my man, detailing the techniques I used that you can try too. By the end, you’ll find it easier and more satisfying than you might expect. You’ll discover the tips, tricks, and positions that helped me make the girl-on-top position my favorite.
Meeting David
It all began when I met David at a Halloween party last year. Although I was stressed with work and didn’t plan to attend, my friends persuaded me. With little time to prepare, I improvised a ‘sexy secretary’ costume with my work outfit and black stilettos. We exchanged glances all night, and he eventually approached me, playfully pretending I was his personal secretary.
After a few dates, we became serious. David was funny, confident, and skilled in the bedroom. However, I felt less experienced and always let him lead. One night, he asked me to be on top, and I refused out of fear.
Addressing My Insecurities
I was determined to overcome my fear of being on top, so I made a list of my insecurities:
- Feeling pressured to perform perfectly.
- Inexperience with movements.
- Feeling self-conscious under his gaze.
- Insecurity about my body.
- Uncertainty about what he enjoys.
- My natural submissiveness in the bedroom.
Overcoming Performance Pressure
The first step was addressing performance pressure. Here’s how I boosted my confidence:
Talk to Your Man – Open communication is essential. By discussing what we both enjoyed, I learned he loved seeing me get off, which was a revelation.
Lights Off – Turning off the lights helped me feel less judged.
A Drink or Two – A couple of drinks before sex relaxed me, but moderation is key.
Lingerie – Wearing lingerie distracted from any body insecurities.
The Blindfold – Suggesting a blindfold after a few drinks added excitement and removed visual pressure.
Eye Contact – Eye contact can be intense, but it’s not mandatory. Closing my eyes or looking elsewhere worked well.
Don’t Forget to Laugh! – I learned to enjoy the experience, laugh at mishaps, and not overthink technique.
Exploring New Techniques
As I tackled my insecurities, I experimented with new techniques:
Man Missionary – In this position, he couldn’t see me, and I could still control the pace.
Grinding and Bouncing – I practiced grinding for clitoral stimulation and bouncing up and down, adjusting my posture to manage fatigue.
Hand Placement – I tried various hand positions to feel more comfortable, from resting on his chest to leaning back.
Building Confidence
My confidence grew, and I became comfortable trying new things. During Cowgirl, I sometimes let him do the work, changing dynamics and enhancing pleasure.
Through discussions with friends, I realized that pressure from a partner could make being on top more daunting. It’s crucial to communicate with your partner and avoid feeling coerced.
Conclusion
I hope my story inspires you to build confidence in bed. It’s important to find balance and ensure mutual enjoyment in your relationship. If you’re only pleasing your partner without deriving pleasure yourself, it might be time to reassess the relationship.